Alt (dot) com has been around forever and ever it seems. The site is basically one for meeting fetish oriented people, though there are a few straight sex participants and swingers of course. The site is for people all over the world, though it behooves me why someone would be looking for a permanent lover from across the world rather than in their own locality, but let's not judge. As its name implies it is for those involved in an alternate lifestyle.

Alternate lifestyle covers a myriad of sexual desires, be it anything having to do with BDSM, any fetishes, or what have you? If you are not sure, all you need do is to click on their Fetish Checklist. It is rather full of various fetishes you may encounter here. I will confess not knowing that "Denim" was considered a fetish, though I once knew a man who grew excited whenever a woman sneezed, and yet sneezing is not listed.

The more I looked around, it seems that the site is mostly for those involved in some sort of BDSM lifestyle. However, there are so many ways to exhibit and utilize that fetish that you really will need to make your particular desires known if you want a more ideal match.

If you just want to look around, that's fine, it's free, however you will note that you will not be able to look at any photo albums, nor any of the videos, unless you are a paid member, which pretty much leaves out a lot of the fun of Alt.com. In addition, you won't be able to send someone a flirt, much less a message unless you are a paying member. Thus if you are seriously seeking a play partner, you will have to pay for membership. I think that the way they go about it is a bit misleading especially since they are no longer the only BDSM dating site out there. Once you completely fill out your total desires, and open your soul to them and bother to download your picture then you find out it's not free at all. The website also features web cam chatting for its paid subscribers. Also, do not forget that anonymous emailing, chatting and instant messaging are open to its paid members only.

If you are brand new to BDSM, you truly should do a lot of reading prior to using their chats because you do not want to come across as a "virgin" BDSM player, since very few people want to play with those. Mostly the reason is that it's difficult to give someone their "first" BDSM experience and make it all work out. On the other side of the coin too, consider how dangerous it may be to submit to someone who is a brand new Dominant and has not learned all about safety and trust much less about the different nuances of BDSM play that make it so much fun!

With over 3 million active members, it is at least an interesting place to visit, if not dip your toes into the BDSM pool. As always with any dating site, do not give out personal information until you've had a chance to feel any person out that is contacting you.